Q: I like to hear my wife tell stories about other guys she's been with. What is this called and where can I find other guys who are into this?

A: Before you start looking for a way to act out your troilism fantasy, you might want to talk about this with the Mrs. first. So far, she's only been telling you stories, which is a fantastical jump from hopping into the sack with Joe Schmo. Fantasizing about a situation is very different than actually living it out — like the difference between reading about the Peace Corps and actually moving to Zimbabwe. Even if you're ready for the real deal, that type of relationship is not a piece of cake. While there are plenty of great open relationships, it takes forethought and planning to make it work. You'll need to make sure the communication and trust between your wife and yourself is rock solid before seconds are added to the menu.

If you are both excited about the prospect of her sleeping with other men, then it's time to set down the rules. Discuss everything from who she's allowed to do to who'll be picking her up from her rendezvous. Once rules and emotions have been discussed, you can start perusing for male entertainment. There are a number of escort sites you can pick from. This option allows you to choose the guy together, if that's more your comfort level. And then there's the standard "community," which is an established group of like-minded folks you can reach through online sites like adultfriendfinder.com. Or you can head to a classic swinger's den, such as Philly's Pleasure Garden Club. Either way, you get a taste of "the life," which you may soon find is all the boner-inducement you need.

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