Q: Besides the obvious, what are the most common erogenous zones for a man?

A: That’s like asking what the most com­mon skin tone in the world is — “Um, brown, but with varying degrees of brown?” It might seem like a cop-out to say everyone’s different, but it’s true. Be­lieve it or not, that really is the most exciting answer, because now the world — or at least his body — is your oyster.

At least, what he’ll let you play with. The hardest part about pleasuring a man is generally his own comfort with pleasure. Sure, you’re saying, “But men have no problem asking for it!” However, many men (particularly straight men) don’t allow themselves to take pleasure outside of the ol’ ball and chain. In American no-homo culture, a surprising number of men have learned that it’s not manly to feel or be touched — unless it’s on the penis with the intent to cum.

So getting a man comfortable with venturing into things like anal play (the prostate being an undeniable erogenous zone) might need to begin with breaking down his barriers with simple things like light ear nibbling or nipple caressing. Your biggest move in this chess game is making him feel comfortable with you; make him realize his masculinity isn’t being threatened. Comfort levels set, start teasing his biggest sexual organ — his brain — and the power of suggestion may take it from there.

For men who are a little more comfortable with touch and their body, just ask! It’s his body, and it’s likely he already knows what feels good where. Just have fun with the exploration, and remember if in the end you just go back to playing with old faithful — the penis and balls — at least you had a fun journey together.

Have a question you’d like to ask our sexpert? Email her (anonymously!) at megan.augustin@citypaper.net.