Q: I’m a 41-year-old single straight man. Growing up, when I would go to my doctor, the nurses took my temperature rectally until I was 13, which was humiliating but sexually arousing at the same time, and the experience has really stuck with me. I need to find a woman who will accept me and genuinely enjoy taking my temperature this way routinely as part of an ongoing relationship. Any ideas?

A: You’re not alone. While there’s still a notion in our culture that a man enjoying anal penetration is a sign of latent homosexuality or femininity, tons of straight dudes out there are realizing sexual pleasure is acceptable and positive regardless of the body part it’s coming from. And, as a parallel, lots of women get off on giving a man pleasure and being in control, whether that comes from giving the most amazing blowjob on Earth or tickling his prostate with a thermometer.

If you’re comfortable putting yourself out there, kink-specific dating sites that help hook up people with complementary fetishes might be a good place to start looking. If you don’t have a computer or are determined to find someone in the general dating pool through trial and error, it’ll likely be a longer process. While a good percentage of modern gals are up for anal play, the numbers in your favor get slimmer if you ask for it on the first date — so slow your roll. If you demonstrate to a partner that you care about her and her own desires rather than viewing her primarily as a thermometer-holder, she’s much more likely to pull that naughty-nurse Halloween costume out of the closet.

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