Staff Blog
On Children and Deadbeat Dads
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| A cry for his father's attention |
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Every time I hear from Fadia Ward, I know something wild's going on. Last summer, Fadia spent some time with her young daughter outside Family Court, rallying support for her mission to make Philly's deadbeat dads accountable for their inactions. As she'd just launched her sorryassbabydaddies.com Web site, she said:
"I want to humiliate them," she says, explaining that the Family Court security officer who told her she'd get locked up was probably a deadbeat dad. "They have to get their acts together."
Well now, it seems, she's taken it one step further, and is hearing an earful from people who think she's exploiting kids. Her new site, the compassionately named daddydontwantme.com features videos of young children explaning as you might expect how they wish their daddies did want them. (Also worth checking out is the bindle-graphic-having Bum of the Month feature which, this month, highlights a virile fella who has a dozen kids with five ladyfriends.) Getting negative reaction from some friends, she told me, "I was hurt at first but this is what it is, this is how the children feel and people need to recognize this so we can start coming up with solutions." Then, she wanted to know what I thought (Hey, it's reality, so why not put it out there, goes my thinking).
But I'm more interested in hearing what everybody else thinks, so check it out and post a comment or drop Fadia a line on the site to let her know.
I think there would be more Dads glad to see their children but some of the Mother’s of these kids are making life miserable for a lot of these men. All stories have two sides. Bum of the month is directly proportional to Bitch of the month(week, day, hour, minute).
All stories have two sides. I’ll bet for every ‘Bum of the Month’ we can find a ‘Bitch of the Month’ who makes a man pay hell to see his children.
What’s worse - not supporting your child emotionally or financially or putting the aforementioned losers on blast?? I support this website. My only concern would be if the children knew they were on a website called “daddydontwantme.com” because it’s a pretty harsh reality. Although the children are obviously aware their fathers are not in their lives in the way they should be, saying “your daddy don’t want you” can cause emotional damage, especially self-esteem issues, that could affect them for the rest of their lives.
Sounds like some deadbeat dads are mad - GOOD! The negative comments are probably from deadbeats who don’t want to voluntarily pay for their children.
It’s true, the men who are mad are probably the ones NOT paying court ordered support. The was I see it, I am full time mommy, providing full-time child care. Shit, I pay $700 a month on child care so that I could work a full time job to take care of my child. She gets the best of everything. Private schhol education and all and she’s only 4. I do what I have to do in order to secure her future. Every penny I earn goes towards taking care of my family. If you can’t afford the $375 COURT ORDERED support, them maybe you should pay the $10 for a box of EXTRA strength condoms to prevent this in the future.
LOS ANGELES — A judge awarded more than $3 million to a woman for her former husband’s alleged failure to pay spousal and child support since 1987 — one of the largest such awards in recent years, an attorney said Tuesday.
Judy Lorden’s divorce from Richard Lorden was entered into in California. Richard Lorden, a successful businessman, has lived for years in Mexico City under the name of Ricardo Lorden Brenzel, according to her lawyer, Jose Mariano Castillo.
In the May 1987 divorce settlement, Judy Lorden was awarded $5,000 per month for spousal support and $3,000 per month for child support. Richard Lorden was to pay child support until their son Brian, born in 1983, reached age 18.
According to Castillo, Richard Lorden “never paid a cent of spousal and child support in 20 years, hiding behind the complexities of international law. This is a prime example of a multimillionaire avoiding legally awarded support by ignoring American law. Fortunately, cooperation between U.S. and Mexican authorities is likely to bring this travesty of justice to an end.”
A Superior Court summary of the case did not list an attorney or representative for Richard Lorden.
In writing to her counterpart in the Mexican Superior Court, Los Angeles Superior Court Commissioner Maren Nelson concluded last August that Richard Lorden “has failed, refused and continues to refuse to make any payments to Judy Lorden for child support and for spousal support …”
Nelson said the judgment with interest had reached $3.94 million. On Feb. 19, she ruled that Richard Lorden was legally served and must appear and plead guilty or not guilty on the charge of criminal contempt on March 19.
If he does not show up, Richard Lorden can be arrested, Nelson said.
According to The Financial, a leading business publication in Mexico City, Richard Lorden is a prosperous businessman with close ties to the governor of Puebla, Mario Marin Torres.
He also is head of the Mexican division of Phoenix Motor Cars, a recently launched electric vehicle manufacturer, and a director of ETI, Environmental Tel International, under the name of Ricardo Lorden Jr., according to The Financial.
Under the Inter-American Convention, according to Castillo, residents of one country can be served legal papers in another. Castillo said he went to the U.S. Justice Department and Mexico’s Minister of Foreign Affairs before receiving legal authorization to present papers to Richard Lorden, who was finally served in December with orders to come to Los Angeles.
I agree with all above.. But the saying deadbeatdads is UNFAIR it shoud be DEADBEATMOMS&DADS As a step mom (FULL TIME MOM to him) I was doing a google search on back child support list for his mother and found this site. There are moms out that dont want there kids or even help pay to support them. What is worse is the courts do go after them like fathers eather. after 2 years she was orderd to pay 70.00 a week its now been 3 years and i think she has paid 8 months & she has not worked in the last 6 months PARTYING IT UP IS HER LIFT. She claimed him on her taxes she used him to get welfare and any thing else she could get with having a child. She has never helped buy him anything - she might see him 2 a month & then she olny drags him around parting. If we had some extra money for a lawyer she would not see him at all. They have done nothing to her she. So I just want it to be known there are Great moms out there with deadbeatdads BUT there is also GREAT dads with deadbeatmoms tooo.. and they have even less help.
This is her myspace with a minor groping her.
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendid=86996540
In regards to the message posted by Katie Wright. Before you re-post things on the internet, get the facts. That lawyer is going to be sued for defirmation of character. My father has taken care of me my whole life. The judge never awarded any money!! READ ON!! LONG BEACH, Calif. — In a stunning victory for the defense, the Los Angeles Superior Court dismissed all child support contempt charges against Richard Lorden, announced the Law Offices of Jeffrey H. Sherter. Ms. Judy Lorden through her attorney, Jose Mariano Castillo, filed a contempt proceeding (case D191152) alleging that Mr. Lorden “has never paid any of the court-ordered child support.”
Ms. Lorden omitted any reference to the fact that her ex-husband went well beyond the call of duty to provide for their son, Bryan Lorden, leaving the false impression that he did nothing for him. Bryan, now in college in Arizona, credits his success in life to his father’s love and support. According to Bryan Lorden “My father Richard Lorden is NOT a deadbeat father. What Jose Mariano Castillo has put on the internet is a fabrication. I only lived with my mother for roughly four (4) years before I moved to Mexico City with my father. During my stay with my mother, my father supported us. My father is and has been supporting me financially my whole life. I do hope the people who have read what Jose Mariano Castillo has posted will discredit his accusations of my father being a deadbeat.”
To this very day, Mr. Lorden continues to support his son both financially and emotionally, and will fight to protect his reputation against malicious accusations to the contrary.
The case was presented to Maren E. Nelson, Judge Presiding. Mr. Richard Lorden was represented by his counsel, Jeffrey H. Sherter, Esq., Legal Action Workshop, appearing by limited scope representation. Mr. Sherter filed a Memorandum of Points and Authorities in support of his client’s defense. He argued, among other things, that the allegations of unpaid child support for purpose of contempt were barred by statue.
The court dismissed the child support claims, and issued a written memorandum, as follows: (1) Respondent’s motion to dismiss for lack of jurisdiction is denied. Respondent waived any challenge to the manner of service and voluntarily submitted to the jurisdiction of the court by filing a motion addressing the merits of the proceeding. (2) Respondent’s motion to dismiss those counts of contempt for failure to pay child support is granted. All counts of contempt for failure to pay child support are dismissed in their entirety pursuant to Code of Civil Procedure 1218.5(b) (3-year statute of limitations. (3) Respondent’s motion to dismiss those counts of contempt for failure to pay spousal support prior to June 29,2004 is granted pursuant to Code of Civil Procedure 1218.5(b)(3-year statute of limitations. (4) Respondent’s motion to dismiss those counts of contempt for failure to pay spousal support after July 1,2004 (35 counts) is denied.”
XXXXXXXX age 40 born june 21 1967.willfully refuses to pay childsuppoort for the past 18 yrs. he from philly. he never saw his daughter when she was born 18 yrs ago he rejected and abandon her. never told his family . he’s selfish doesn’t care. all he cares about is cars and hops from one crazy bitch to the next. something is deeply wrong with him. he acknowledges his other 2 kids by 2 different women. he currenty has a benchwarrarnt out on him. since dec.7 2006.
I ACTUALLY HAVE A DEAD BEAT DAD IN YOUR CITY, HE MOVED TO PHILLY FROM SUMTER S.C. IN 93. WHEN HE MOVED TO PHILLY HE ALREADY HAD A CHILD SUPPORT ORDER ON HIM ,THAT HE WASN’T PAYING 45 DOLLARS A WEEK WAS ALL HE WAS ORDERED TO PAY AND HE WOULD’NT PAY THAT. BY 2004 HE WAS 8000 IN THE HOLE AND S.C.WAS WAITING FOR PHILLY TO INFORCE THE COURT ORDER. THAT NEVER TOOK PLACE. HE NOW BEING SUPPORTED BY THE STATE! YES THIS GROWN ASS MAN IS ON PUBLIC ASSISTANCE. SO PHILLY NOW SAYS THEY CANNOT BY LAW ENFORCE THIS ORDER. I WORK EVERYDAY TO MAKE SURE MY DAUGHTER IS WELL TAKEN CARE OF WHILE THIS MAN SITS ON PUBLIC ASSISTANCE! I DONT NOW WHATS UP WITH PHILLY BUT THATS NOT SOME PLACE CARE TO LIVE. WHERE DEAD BEAT DADS ARE REWARDED FOR BEING JUST THAT ! TAX DOLLARS ARE GOING TO TAKE OF A MAN WHO ISN’T TAKING CARE OF HIS RESPONSIBILITIES . MY HAT IS OFF TO YOU PHILLY !!!!!!! GIRL CONTINUE DOING JUST WHAT YOUR DOING BECAUSE THE GOV.,FAMILY COURT, MAYOR, WHOEVER IS MAKING THE RULES OR SHOULD I SAY LAWS DOESN’T HAVE A CLUE.AND GUESS WHAT FELLOWS EVEN IF SHE IS A BITCH YOUR CHILD STILL NEEDS YOUR SUPPORT. MAN UP!
I have a D.B.D. he is the father of my 3 children he would rather impress bithches oppose to taking care of his kids. Thats right bird i said it. He lied to family court about having a job his current occupation is a drug dealer on 60th & lansdowne. His kids aren’t allowed to visit wher he resides & he knows why.He gets over $150 in food stamps every month and dosen’t even offer to share with his kids but he insists hes a man.
I went on these sites and most of the females on their are 18 and 21 with one or two baby daddies. What’s wrong with them? These men only wanted you for one thing ; you need to recognize the game. Becuase you got so caught up and couldnt keep your legs closed you got left holding the baggage, yes these men might be no good, for neglecting their kids, but I blame you both for in many cases having children with somone you did not obviously know that well. If you have to chase these men and beg them to take care of their why bother?? Its not like you didn’t know he was a piece of shit when he was kicking game to you to get in your drawers. So if he won’t be a man then put your emotions aside and take of your kids. Stop chasing after a man that obviously does not want you or your kids.
Angel - THIS! I agree! Why on earth are these women having the babies to begin with? Ever hear of birth control? How *stupid* are these women?
To judy&angel,Did you ask your mothers why didn’t she keep her legs closed when she had you? your fathers could have kids out there that you know nothing about. that’s how slick some men are. If you are a MAN you’re supposed to have a moral obligation to take care of your kid or kids. You’re responsible for your own actions. A MAN wouldn’t do this to their own flesh and blood. It’s like your saying I don’t care if your kid or kids don’t eat,have dissent clothes to wear,don’t care about their education,health & emotional well being. AS if the child is dead and never exist on this earth.When kids ask questions about who and where is my father,you tell them the truth.It’s very sad. As a mother you have to be their for your kid or kids emotional well being. That’s very important. Keep talking to your kid or kids and most importantly,tell them how much you love them&how much you mean to me & other family members.Because that is an ugly hurting feeling to feel abandoned and neglected from the biological father.GOD gave you a gift and purpose for my child and yours to be here in this world.Whatever the situation may be.AS the saying goes “GOD DONT’ LIKE UGLY”. WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND WILL DEFINETLY COME BACK ON YOU. THERE ARE GOOD SINGLE FATHERS WHO ARE RAISING THEIR KIDS ON THEIR OWN AND GOES THROUGH CRAP WITH THEIR MOTHERS. ALSO THEIR ARE SOME MEN WHO ARE MARRIED AND GO OUTSIDE OF THE MARRIAGE AND HAVE KIDS ALL OVER THE PLACE.
Father’s Day is Sunday. I don’t expect to hear from my daughter despite having moved 400 miles to be nearer so — just in case she did reach out or need me — I would be there. $12K/year + expenses. Paid in full. So what.
Brainwashing is real. Alienation is real. It’s child abuse. And it can work both ways. Courts could care less until there’s blood or starvation: ignore visitation rights = LOL; stumble on support = handcuffs + retaliation. That’s just how it is: get a grip.
This has nothing to do with money folks, nothing. You want to hate on your ex? You *really* have to model hatred for your child? Go ahead. Guess who gets hurt and does it to your grandkids?
Your son or daughter may eventually get a perspective, or not. All you can do is be the best person possible and hope your child gets to see what the high road is.
Love them. They’ll know it. Nothing else matters.
my 9 year olds dad remarried and wants nothing to do with his daughter, it’s sad, but he pays his child support every month. what she really needs his love and the acknowledgement of her father. she is a very good girl depite the fact he is not there. it’s too bad he is missing so much
Hey, regardless of what the women issues are/were b4 that child was conceived, ie… weather she allowed herself to be deceived or not by the dude, is irrelevant when it comes to owning up to your responsibiltes. BOTH parents have a responsiblity to that child. NO EXCUSES! I’m just glad the courts and child support systems don’t think the same way as these “DOG SUPPORTERS” when it comes to making them financially support their responsibilties. Most of these women who defend these dudes and try to make excuses as to why the Mothers need to back off, are the same women that have doggish men that are out there screwing around on them and making babies with other women. Now they want to cry “foul woman” because they know their so called man is due for child support payments for the next 18-22 yrs.
I am reading many of you comments all I know is that someone has to stop the cycle. My son is soon to be 13. His father paid religiously when he was born, you know $25.00 a week. I was 17 he was 28. He saw him once and pretended to be the proud parent. Two years later the money stopped and the troubled started. I may have needed the money badly when I was younger now it is principle. His is in jail once again I was told for his support. I have offered to reduce the support and he tells me he can afford it leaves the court house and never makes another payment until he is being bailed out. My son has seen his father 3 times in his life and never seen his aunts, uncles or grandparents. His family has never sent a birthday card or Christmas gift. There has never been support of any kind. Now he is $30,000 behind and I don’t care. Sometimes I feel bad. He has had a rough run but so did I did he ever care. I cannot allow him to get away with this. He use to tell me how his father left home and did not care if his mother had money to feed the children or a roof over their heads. I am trying to raise a man. I cannot allow my son to think he can create a child and assume none of the responsibility that encompasses it. I want my son to know that ever action has a reaction it is better to learn through observation rather than personal experience. The cycle needs to stop. Custodial parents need to hold non-custodial parents accountable. If we do not feed, care for, or provide for our children we will face criminal charges of neglect, abuse or endangerment how is it that the Domestic Relation laws in at the Pa are never more than civil what some of these parents do is criminal. Many parents pay up to $40.00 a day for childcare 11.5 hours a day while they work. I know I did. The average child support payment breaks down to $13.00 a day and that includes so much more than a childcare facility can offer. Many of us just want the best for our children and why should we not expect the person who help us create them to meet us in the middle. Make the world know that tax payers are not there to support unwanted children. Statistically men are far more likely to be deadbeats than women, why where were their fathers? It is a cycle.
What does it take for the California Child Support Sysyem to wake up?
What does it take before a child support case evader elvolves from several minor contempt charges to a down right felony, or federal case? How many times will they let the guilty bail out of jail, before they realize he isnt comming back? Now I can understand one man having a child and doing everything he can to manage his issue with his minimal income. But 8 times? Let take the 9 cases of one father imparticular. At age 22 he beagan making babies. To date at age 41 he has managed to impregnate a total of 9 different women. The most recent a 19 year old, what I call a girl who is 3 months along. At one time 2 women at the same time were pergnant. His 2 eldest childers are 17 and 18 years old. He has managed to rack up over $400,000.00 in unpaid support. That figure is based on the $300.00 a month California allows per child. We arent counting housing, medical care, or food stamps.Think abot it by the time all of his children reach age 18 the tax payers total bill for this mans screw fest, will be somewhere around a (million) dollars or more. Thats $1,000,000.00!!!! Gee would it be wonderful if we could all go out and waste a million dollars, and feel orgasmic about it? He was tricked into going to court in Tulare County on a minor probation violation in 2005, and was promptly arrested by the support agency, and brought before a Judge. The Judge then ordered a $25,000.00 bail, in which he promptly paid without batting an eye. Of course it was paid by one of the many unsuspecting women he has managed to take on his roller coaster rides with her credit card. At the time the Judge indicated to him that on his next appearence, he could definitely count on a 1 year minimun jail sentence. After bailing out he managed to hightail it to the small town of Duncan Oklahoma, where he has resided for the past 2 years with not one letter, bail enforcement agent, or any other support agency knocking on his door. His My Space page proudly exibits the sonargram of his latest arrival. One mothers support case was at one time, thru the California system who had managed not to collect one dime in 8 years for her son. She became so sick of dealing with support services she moved to Washington State. As soon as she got there she had her case moved from California to Washington and guess what? Within 60 days she had a new support order and was actually recieving $306.00 a month from the father. It was collected thru Washington via Oklahoma. The checks came on a steady basis for almost a year, until about 3 months ago. I was thinking why am is she getting this for her son and the 8 other mothers are getting nothing? They found him by running his SSN and found out where he was working. It was quite simple, California had no idea where he was. I guess they only run his SSN when they see fit or at every $100,000.00 addition to his current outstanding bill. That was the time the father found out he was having another baby on the way. Some of the mothers work fulltime and use the system to supplement what they need. Others depend fully on the system to support them and the kids. I have never been on welfare and use the system for the medical insurance for my son only, that the father was ordered to pay. If I did not do this the deduction to cover him on my policy at work, would be about $350.00 a month. Then guess what? I would have to be on welfare. I have supplied Tulare, Fresno, and Orange County support services as to where he now resides, but guess what? He still runs free, making more babies at your exspense, and still gets to drive his New Harley Davidson, drive his new Silverado Truck, vacations in his 35 ft motorhome and tows his brand new bass boat right behind it. And keep his cash business of Auto Detailing and collect welfare thur his current pregnant girlfriend. Its just like he has won the lottery at your exspense. He is laughing at all the tax payers that are supporting his lifestyle.
I think support service should run the SNN every 30 days on a mandatory basis.
Any warrant that is issued on support matters, and should be enforced no matter how small the bail or warrant is. 18 years in long enough dont you think? Well we can all look forward to another 18 or more years.
I guess they are thinking its cheaper to issue a warrant, than to just go get him.
The drivers licence should be suspended if one payment is missed and require that it stays suspended until the monetary obligation has been paid in full. Not let him make 2 or 3, $25.00 payments and then give it back to him.
The person responsible for hiding his assets should be held accountable also.
Dennis E. Bennett is a dead beat Dad!!
Everyone needs to pick up your phones and call you state representative’s and state senators, and tell them you want a bill passed to make to make it a criminal offense for willful failure to pay a support order.Pa. has no criminal statutes for failure to pay child support and at least 40 other states make it a felony not to pay support after a certain period of time or amount.Currently the Pa. house of reps. is trying to pass a bill that would only make it a 3rd degree misdemeanor (House bill 1027)These guys and some time’s gals know they can get away with not paying.We need to stand up and tell our law makers we demand changes!!!Our children deserve better and tax payer should not have to foot the bills for these deadbeats who refuse to support their children they helped create. I personally have been fighting for almost 8 years..My deadbeat Scott A. Sutters owes almost 50,0000 in back support he works under the table and has nothing in his name so he can’t be found by child support enforcement.There is a system called JNET that law enforcement and state agency’s including PACSES has not been properly using.. This is a wonderful tool that needs to be used properly which would help catch some of the worse offenders. Sooo get on the phone and call your state law makers and voice your concerns ..If people don’t make a stand nothing will ever change and your law makers have no idea what is really going on with child support issues!!!! If anyone knows my deadbeat please call the Philadelphia domestic warrant division..Fight the good fight!!!!
Replying to the letters from frustrated and michele,that sounds like the same situation from a DEADBEAT MICHAEL A CARTER from phila,pa.And yes,pa should do more for our children. Especially family court on 34 south 11 street in phila.They are suppose to be helping you but to me their not.I read online childsupport(OCS)about seeking a criminal prosecution. This is what i read. All states also have criminal statues on the books to punish parents who refuse to pay their childsupport. If the custodial parent complains to the district attorney office,it may seek an indictment against the nonpaying parent in criminal court. If the defendant is found guilty,he or she may be jailed. Or, the guilty parent may be put on probation and allowed to remain free if he or she pays all back childsupport and makes all future payments in a timely matter.Our new elect FIRST AFRICAN-AMERICAN PRESIDENT BARACK OBAMA ,is about family values. He will see to it.
I LEFT MY HUSBAND AFTER 7 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. AT THE TIME, MY DAUGHTER WAS 3 AND MY SON WAS8 MONTHS OLD. THAT WAS IN 2005. HE HAS NEVER PICKED UP THE CHILDREN, NOR SEES THEM. HE WAS COURT ORDERED TO PAY 1,591.00 PER MONTH. HE WORKED HIS FAMILY BUSINESS FOR 30 YEARS, MAKING A SUBSTANTIAL AMOUNT OF MONEY. CURRENTY HE IS 37,000.00 ARREARAGES IN 3 YEARS. HE WAS FINALLY LOCKED UP AFTER SEEING 7 JUDGES THAT GAVE HIM 30 DAYS EACH COURT APPEARANCE. FINALLY JUDGE (?) LOCKED HIM UP AND PUT HIS BAIL (WHICH GOES TO ME BECAUSE IT IS CHILD SUPPORT AT 5,000.00. HE SAT IN JAIL FOR 2 MONTHS. HIS PARENTS ARE MILLIONAIRS. (NOT THERE RESPONSIBILITY)HOWEVERR, THEY REFUSED TO ADD OUR KIDS ON THE FAMILY INSURANCE POLICY.(EVEN WHILE WE WERE MARRIED)
I WAS AWARDED 20,0000.00 OUT OF MARITAL PROPERTY AND AN ESCALATION CLAUSE WAS PUT ON THAT FIGURE IF THE BALANCE WASN’T PAID FOR EACH 30 DAYS THAT FIGURE WENT UP 1,000.00. THE BALANCE DUE IS AROUND 80,000.00. THAT WAS 2005. SEPT -7, 2008 HE SIGNED OVER HIS SHARE OF THE HOUSE TO HIS PARENTS. I SINCE PUT A LIEN ON THE PROPERTY. THEY PUT THE HOUSE UP FOR SALE THE HOUSE SOLD, AND ON THE NIGHT OF SETTLEMENT, THEY STOPPED THE SALE DUE TO THE LIEN. I AM CURRENTLY IN A COURT BATTLE WITH MY EX IN LAWS. CAN YOU BELIEVE THIS.
HE MAKES ME SICK, MY SON REFERS TO HIM AS EDDIE,AND MY DAUGHTER JUST DOESN’T CARE.
HIS FAMILY ARE NOTHING BUT SCUM, AND THE WILL GO TO HELL.
HIS NAME IS PHILIP E. LONG JR. I WISH I COULD ADVERTISE HIM AND HIS CHURCH GOING FAMILY. WHO BY THE WAY LIVE ON THE WATER HAVE BEACH HOUSES, 20,000.00 ORIENTAL RUGS, TRIPS TO EUROPE, GUESS WHAT I HAVE NO HEALTH INSURANCE, HE DOES. THEY MAKE ME PUKE, AND THEY LOOSE, WHY, BECAUSE I HAVE MY KIDS, AND THEY MEAN THE WORLD TO ME, AND I WILL FIGHT HIM AND THEM UNTIL THE DAY I DIE. CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT DOES THEIR PART, FOR THOSE PEOPLE IN A SITUATION LIKE MINE, EVEN THOUGH I HAD AN ATTORNEY FOR MY DIVORCE, I NO LONGER HAVE ONE REPRESENTING ME NOW. TAKE THE TIME AND FILE YOUR PAPERS, IT WILL GET DONE. STAY ON TOP OF IT, DON’T SHAKE IT OFF. I GOT HIS LAST BENCH WARRANT, AND I REPRESENTED MYSELF, AN I WILL NEVER GIVE UP. DO IT FOR YOUR CHILDREN.
JUDI LONG
replying to Judi Long,that’s good news for you and the kids on the childsupport. You and your children are entitiled to that house. What’s is wrong with these people? they dont need that house. They are being hateful and spiteful towards you because of their grown son. I dont understand people like that.this is about the emotional well being of their grandkids. Goodluck!to you i hope you get the house and everything else that is entitled to you
Walt Hommerding of Newport Beach owes close to a
million dollars of arrears of child support.
He has only paid shit bits of below poverty levels
for his son, now 21.
My order in 1988 is for 30% of his net because he was
an asshole moron not wanting to have anything to do
with his own kid, so the judge maxxed it out.
By law, a child has the legal right to attain child
support from BOTH parents.
Unfortunatley, the advocate parent is deemed a
villian for going after the amount that is the social
and legal and moral and (forget spiritual) obligation
of the other parent.
Deadbeats are a class of their own, scum.
Don’t expect anything less of a deadbeat than a good
fight. Stupidly, they say more about themselves in
fighting against their own kid, and endorse and
magnify their own deadbeat label. Remember the courts
rule against deadbeats.
BE sure to give as good as you get!!!
At the end of the day, they might get away with it,
but make sure it isn’t that EASY for them. Be sure to
never let a deadbeat build a life of joy over the
broken dreams of his own child.
It is your duty to get what belongs to your kid.
Be as tenacious as a pitbull and make sure he
understands one thing, YOU ARE NOT LETTING HIM GET
AWAY WITH IT!
Yes, we do need some type of public clearinghouse to expose deadbeat parents. You go, girl!! This is transparency that all of the thought leaders are touting.
For example…the deadbeat dad of my children case owes more than $50,000 in back child support for our 2 children. The court at 34th S. 11th street has failed to enforce the child support order. Excuses should not be acceptable. When I go to the grocery store to buy food for these children, and pay rent/mortgage, clothes, heat, electricity, water, field trips, sports registration, health insurance premiums, copays and deductibles, no one accepts excuses. They require money.
Can anyone tell me why a parent who contributes no time, effort, whatsoever, can’t pay $150.00 per week for 2 children? That, in no way, covers one parent’s share of supporting their 2 children. But, even that token amount would be as little as picking up a paper route.
I’ve had to work 3 jobs at a time, sleep-deprived, stressed, swollen feet, taken out student loans just to subsidize my take-home pay, accruing debt of more than $100,000 to pick up deadbeats slack and keep these kids from homelessness.
FAMILY COURT: PLEASE DO YOUR JOB. IT’S THE CHILDREN WHO SUFFER WHEN YOU DON’T. They wonder why they have to go without and blame the one parent who’s there, been there, and giving her blood, sweat and tears to provide for them. FAMILY COURT: PLEASE DO YOUR JOB. IT’S THE CHILDREN WHO SUFFER WHEN YOU DON’T.
President Obama — please do something: mandatory castration for career deadbeats, mandatory incarceration/work detail — something! By the way, you need to fix that clause in SSI that protects deadbeats. They sometimes lie/fake to get out of their responsibilities by working the system.
beker alexandre is an haitian from asile , he is a deadbeat dad. he lives in trenton new jersey
wanted to let you all know my son james who i s now 23 yrs. old had a dead beat dad by the name of trey bartlett in oklahoma, left us like we were a piece of trash and never looked back. Never cared about how we survived or whatever.
Trey you do not deserve your sons love you are a piece of @#$@!!! a million times over and it w3ill never be forgotten, so stay in the hell you deserve
I have a deadbeat dad who left me when I was three years old, I have Down Syndrome and I will be 16years old April 2009, my mom loves me and she takes very good care of me. My father’s name is Gerard Battle and he lives at 6540 Lambert Street, Phila Penna 19138. He protrays himself as a Muslim, and that is because he went to jail because he stole $50.000 from my grandmother. I hope you are happy with yourself and your so call religion. Knowing the trth about you has made me realized how truly blessed I am that you have chose not to be a part of our life. Thank You Jesus.
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I have a deadbeat ex. We finally got divorced in 2005 as his family wished. Everyone’s wishes came true, especially his girlfriends! But it left our son heart broken! He came around in the 1st year, when he had time… He would make false promises to our 4.5 yr old and would not be able to show up. It got to a point where I could not stand back and watch our son get hurt anymore! My ex developed a great family relationship with his new family, great for him, but what about your own little guy? Am I that much of a bitch to ask him to devote the same/equal time with his own son? It wasn’t about me! Trust me that was done long before we divorced! It was about our son! He heard me, but he did not listen. I told him the more time that past between him and his son, the worse it would get. And it did our son is hurt and does not want his dad a part of his life anymore as it has been way too long, years… My son has been through counselling and still is to this day, he is turning 8! My ex paid support for 12-14 months???, then stated if he (our son) doesn’t want to see or talk to him, then why should he pay for something he does not see? My theory to him was TRY & keep trying! That ended in great conversation between the 2 of us! Yes I am being very sarcastic… My ex has moved to Australlia with his girlfriend and her children making $ 90,000.00/annually. Unless I take him to court there is nothing I can do. What I can do is keep doing what I ‘ve done from day one, offer my son all the love,support and well being that he deserves and needs! As to my ex best of luck to the Sencich family in Australlia! It is sad that you could walk away from this precious little boy! But I THANK YOU, as Ty is a incredible HAPPY growing boy! Yes as crazy as it sounds THANK YOU! Ty is my gift, my world!Ty is what makes my day sunny and makes me work harder to keep him as happy as can be. So that he never feeels as if he would be without something or get further in life. Ty felt that hje did this, as a result to ex-family members! Never blame a child, you should be ashamed of yourself! So keep your money, as money does not bring happiness, but MY SON DOES!
Karma bites! I have read all of the post posted and I wish you all good luck! Inregards to deadbeat moms, yes there is many of them out there, and I don’t get it???? Also step parents are a very important role in the childrens lives, just love them for who they are! There is 1 post that caught my very eye, it was by RC on June 13th, 2008 at 6:06 pm— Your post is very true! Ex’s can hate eachother all they want, keep the children out of it! Be honest with your children, the truth will come out sooner or later! Our children are going through enough pain, they don’t need to find out that down the road mom or dad have been telling stories to keep them away from either parent. On this note, I have exhausted all efforts to keep my ex & my son communicating & seeing eachother for the past 4 years. Some men need to wake up (my ex) let go of the hatred for me, cause the greatest gift is & always will be is Ty! Good luck to all of you! My short version story has been told & my conscious is free & clear! Best wishes to all of you!
Helen S
I am a deadbeat dad. I dont pay child support. I will never pay it. I don’t care if I ever see my girls again. They will look for me when they are 18 years old. It’s a wait and see. I am marry again and I am happy. The mother is a total bitch! She will have to find me to serve me with child papers and in which case, she cant find me. I will just keep moving.
It amazes me how this thread continues to grow! Obviously, a very important topic. I just have something to say to Ronald Dinsmore. I hope that long before your girls turn 18 you have a change of heart because they are the people you are punishing, not their mother. On second thought, maybe it would be better to just send a copy of your comments to them so they can see what a jerk you are and won’t waste their time and energy looking for you when they are 18.
beker alexandre is a dead beat dad he has a daughter he didin’t give shit about her, beker alexandre is an haitian from l’asile , beker is a piece of shit his first child name after him has a miserable life in haiti. he didn’t tell his wife about her beker is a stinky piece of crap . He will burn in hell
Ronal Dinsmore needs to be wrned that after years of not having any emotional nor financial support, your tow girls will nto feel bonded to you.
They will get used to you being gone, and you need to remember this important thing.
Your two girls need a dad NOW in their childhood.
The fact that you are so assinine to believe they will want anything to do with you after ripping them off their entire lives in a fantasy in your mind.
They will come to hate you mister.
Your commetns sound so selfish, makes me sick and I would slap you in the head if I knew you.
The fact that you think they will be around in their old age is only about you needing a daughter rather thatn a daughter needing a father…selfish stupid bastard.
Tell your new wife she is a cunt for being an aided and albeitor of a deadbeat and may the dinners she guzzles down her white trash throat in lieu of feeding your daughters choke the bitch.
You do not deserve daughters and NO WONDER YOUR X IS A BITCH AS YOU ARE A DIRTY ROTTEN SONOF A BITCH.
FUCK YOU on behalf of AMERCICA, hurting children.
WALT HOMMERDING you are a pathetic little pussy for spending all of your child support on your silly little slutbags for the last twenty years.
You are left with nothing and you are going to jail.
You are also a snivelling thief and a degenerate asshole and piece of shit below human and may you and your new whore rott in hell.
burn baby burn
Wally Hommerding JR. YOU ARE PURE SCUM AND A FUCKING PRICK OF A BASTARD and you skipped out on your own kid.
DIRTY SCUMSUCKING cuntlicking loser…may your dick fall off and your new whores give you aides.
Walt Hommerding of WELLS FARGO JOKE JOKE JOKE…YOU ARE A JOKE BUT THIS ISN’T.
YOU OWE YOUR KID AFTER SKIPPING OUT OVER A LIFETIME.
HOW CAN YOU LIVE WITH YOURSELF SCUMBAG????
YOU PRETEND THAT YOU ARE A GOOD CITIZEN WHEN YOU ARE A LIAR!
FILTHY FUCKING LIAR